Hey,
So I came across this song the other day and I thought hmmm...interesting...food for thought.
I won't say anymore for now...but you know that I can pick this to pieces...you already know me, right? lol
Statistics - Lyfe Jennings
25% of all men are unstable
25% of all men can't be faithful
30% of them don't mean what they say
and 10% of the remaining 20 are gay
That leaves you with 10% chance of ever finding your man
That means you better pay attention to these word that I say
I'm gonna teach how to expose the 90%
And show you what to do to get the other 10
(chorus)
RULE #1
Don't be a booty call
If he don't respect you girl he gone forget you girl
AND 2
If he's in a relationship
And he would cheat on her that means he would cheat on you
RULE 3
Tell him that you're celibate
and if he want some of your goodies he gone have to work for it
RULE 4
Be the person you wanna find
Don't be a nickle out here lookin' for a dime
STATISTICS
(verse 2)
15% of all men got a complex
15% of all men don't practice safe sex
20% of them are from homes without a father
so there's a 50/50 chance that you'll marry a coward
something to think about when you're taking a shower
something to swallow when you drink your bottled water
I'm gonna teach how to expose the 90%
And show you what to do to get the other 10
(chorus)
(bridge)
Be patient
He's waitin'
you don't gotta settle for less
leave all that stress alone
get you a backbone
stop being sorry for yourself
Chances make champions
It's gonna take patience
Time is still wastin'
Listen to the song and watch the video over in the Videos/Podcasts section :)
Later Ladies
Alyssa K
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Absolutely amazing! I love it!
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Thursday, September 16, 2010
Summer 2010 is almost over! Which guy is hooked on you?
Hi Ladies,
How did it go? How was summer 2010?
As far as I am concerned it is pretty much over but I hope that you had lots of fun being the best you that you could be!
I know I had fun! I also took some time out to answer emails because they continued to come in and I like to give feedback to you as soon as possible!
I picked up quite a few tidbits to share with you over the summer and I will do that over the course of the next few weeks!
I am now back in full force and will not be mincing words in the second half of this year.
You know what to do so just continue doing it!
I am well aware of the fun that some of you have been having this summer with this one.
Works wonders doesn't it? Yes, it erases mistakes but more than that...
You read it, have some aha moments, use the techniques, start feeling really good about yourself, empowered enough to make some bold, brazen steps to change YOU and your relationship and you get the men in your life to sit up and pay attention!
Win, Win!
What else could you ask for?
So who did you manage to work your charms on? Which guy did you get hooked on you?
No worries, if you haven't achieved it just yet though. Only a matter of time!
Alyssa K
How did it go? How was summer 2010?
As far as I am concerned it is pretty much over but I hope that you had lots of fun being the best you that you could be!
I know I had fun! I also took some time out to answer emails because they continued to come in and I like to give feedback to you as soon as possible!
I picked up quite a few tidbits to share with you over the summer and I will do that over the course of the next few weeks!
I am now back in full force and will not be mincing words in the second half of this year.
You know what to do so just continue doing it!
I am well aware of the fun that some of you have been having this summer with this one.
Works wonders doesn't it? Yes, it erases mistakes but more than that...
You read it, have some aha moments, use the techniques, start feeling really good about yourself, empowered enough to make some bold, brazen steps to change YOU and your relationship and you get the men in your life to sit up and pay attention!
Win, Win!
What else could you ask for?
So who did you manage to work your charms on? Which guy did you get hooked on you?
No worries, if you haven't achieved it just yet though. Only a matter of time!
Alyssa K
Wednesday, July 7, 2010
Should I tell him I love him - 4 ways to assess the situation
Hey,
I got this question a few times recently.
If we have been dating or seeing a guy for a while, we become more and more into him until we feel like we have fallen head over heels in love with him.
We spend more and more time with him and things are going so well that we feel compelled to tell him exactly how we feel.
I am all for honesty and being up front and direct with people but I tend to err on the side of caution where men are concerned and I never go faster than they do. In other words, if a man has not said "I love you" nor hinted at it, then I will not say it.
Some women say that if you want to tell a man that you love him, you should just go right ahead and tell him. What's the worst that can happen, right?
Well, if you had that same mindset, then you wouldn't be asking the question "should I tell him that I love him?" You would just have told him.
Here's how you can access the situation though and make a decision. Mull over the following questions.
1. What is it that you are hoping to gain by telling him that you love him? Do you hope that by telling him that that you and he will become closer and that your bond will deepen? Are you hoping that it will take your relationship to the next level? Are you hoping that he feels the same way about you?
2. How long have you been seeing each other? Remember that men and women view dating and relationships very differently and although you have been seeing him for six months and feel like you have fallen in love, he might not feel the same way. Has he been dropping any hints that he may love you too?
3. How would you feel if he did not say it back to you or doesn't that matter? Are you sufficiently detached from the outcome of any such conversation so that if you say it and he does not respond in kind that you could simply say "well, it doesn't matter but I love you and I wanted you to know that". Seriously, if this is the way you feel, then by all means tell him.
4. Are you prepared to face the possibility that he may not feel the same way and that your telling him that may spook him and send him running in the next direction? If that were to happen, do you know how to reverse that situation?
I am really not trying to be pessimistic here but these are valid questions that I think you should mull over. Once you have assessed the situation and you accept that you are taking on a big risk, then go for it! When you take a big risk, it either pays great dividends or you lose everything.
If you are positive that he is hooked on you, then take the risk!
If not, don't do it!
You'll be putting yourself in a position that you do not want to be in.
There is another way.
How about inspiring him to fall in love with you by being the beautiful, sexy confident, no-nonsense lady that you are! No fear of making any mistakes with him because you are in control of you, your emotions and who you give your heart to and who you let in.
Now, how about getting him to say he loves you and wants no one but you... UNPROMPTED!
How do you think you would feel then? He is saying it because he means it with no prompting from you.
Correct ladies, correct...Now that would be quite an achievement!
Alyssa K
I got this question a few times recently.
If we have been dating or seeing a guy for a while, we become more and more into him until we feel like we have fallen head over heels in love with him.
We spend more and more time with him and things are going so well that we feel compelled to tell him exactly how we feel.
I am all for honesty and being up front and direct with people but I tend to err on the side of caution where men are concerned and I never go faster than they do. In other words, if a man has not said "I love you" nor hinted at it, then I will not say it.
Some women say that if you want to tell a man that you love him, you should just go right ahead and tell him. What's the worst that can happen, right?
Well, if you had that same mindset, then you wouldn't be asking the question "should I tell him that I love him?" You would just have told him.
Here's how you can access the situation though and make a decision. Mull over the following questions.
1. What is it that you are hoping to gain by telling him that you love him? Do you hope that by telling him that that you and he will become closer and that your bond will deepen? Are you hoping that it will take your relationship to the next level? Are you hoping that he feels the same way about you?
2. How long have you been seeing each other? Remember that men and women view dating and relationships very differently and although you have been seeing him for six months and feel like you have fallen in love, he might not feel the same way. Has he been dropping any hints that he may love you too?
3. How would you feel if he did not say it back to you or doesn't that matter? Are you sufficiently detached from the outcome of any such conversation so that if you say it and he does not respond in kind that you could simply say "well, it doesn't matter but I love you and I wanted you to know that". Seriously, if this is the way you feel, then by all means tell him.
4. Are you prepared to face the possibility that he may not feel the same way and that your telling him that may spook him and send him running in the next direction? If that were to happen, do you know how to reverse that situation?
I am really not trying to be pessimistic here but these are valid questions that I think you should mull over. Once you have assessed the situation and you accept that you are taking on a big risk, then go for it! When you take a big risk, it either pays great dividends or you lose everything.
If you are positive that he is hooked on you, then take the risk!
If not, don't do it!
You'll be putting yourself in a position that you do not want to be in.
There is another way.
How about inspiring him to fall in love with you by being the beautiful, sexy confident, no-nonsense lady that you are! No fear of making any mistakes with him because you are in control of you, your emotions and who you give your heart to and who you let in.
Now, how about getting him to say he loves you and wants no one but you... UNPROMPTED!
How do you think you would feel then? He is saying it because he means it with no prompting from you.
Correct ladies, correct...Now that would be quite an achievement!
Alyssa K
How to get a man to commit to you - 3 fun and easy ways to do it
hey ladies,
When you start thinking "does he want a relationship with me?"; "I need to know where I stand with him"; "Why won't he marry me?"; "does he want to get married?", then something isn't right. You have to nip this in the bud quickly.
Some women go through this all the time and it gets worse as the relationship drags on. We go through all sorts of mental gymnastics on how to get the guy we are dating to commit to a relationship with us or how to get our boyfriends to commit to marriage.
Somehow we have been conditioned to expect that any man whom we are seeing or dating at the time should be the man we are meant to be with for all eternity especially if the relationship has been a long term one. We somehow expect that the guy whom we are dating and to whom we have grown attached should feel the same way and want to commit to us.
But what if you changed the way that you perceive things? What if it didn't matter to you that much anymore? What if enjoying life and not taking it so seriously ranked as high as or higher than getting a commitment with the guy who is dragging his feet on it?
You know what it is that you want which for many of you is a committed relationship with a man who loves and respects you and who would do anything for you, right?
But who is to say that this will happen with the man you are currently with? It doesn't matter if you have been with him five months or five years. There is no way to tell and you cannot coerce him or dish out ultimatums. In any case, that's really no fun for you, is it?
Why not do it the fun way? Here are three easy tips that will inspire any man to want commit to you:
1. Realise that you cannot force a man to do anything that he does not want to do but you can inspire him to want to commit to you. You have to adopt the type of attitude which conveys to him that he is okay for now but you are not quite sure if you want to be with him always.
That is, in essence, what men do all the time anyway so why not take a page out of that book? Remember that he is one of hundreds of men that you could potentially have a good relationship with and it's good that you always have the presence of mind to keep your options open.
2. Detach yourself from any outcome with him. If you two happen to end up in a committed relationship or get married, then that would be a pleasant surprise but right now all you do is to enjoy the time you spend with him and stop thinking about whether he is "the one" or not. When you do that he realizes that you like having him around but your life is not dependent on whether or not he stays around.
3. Start to enjoy your freedom. What is it that you like to do? Start doing more of that, having more fun, putting you first and spending less time with him. When he realizes that you are not too keen on roping him in for a commitment, he'll start to wonder whether or not you even like being with him or having him around. He'll start wondering whether or not you want to commit to him. And that is where you want him...
Before you know it, you are in a committed relationship with a guy who just doesn't want to let you go.
What did you do? You simply changed your perspective and got him hooked on you!
When you start thinking "does he want a relationship with me?"; "I need to know where I stand with him"; "Why won't he marry me?"; "does he want to get married?", then something isn't right. You have to nip this in the bud quickly.
Some women go through this all the time and it gets worse as the relationship drags on. We go through all sorts of mental gymnastics on how to get the guy we are dating to commit to a relationship with us or how to get our boyfriends to commit to marriage.
Somehow we have been conditioned to expect that any man whom we are seeing or dating at the time should be the man we are meant to be with for all eternity especially if the relationship has been a long term one. We somehow expect that the guy whom we are dating and to whom we have grown attached should feel the same way and want to commit to us.
But what if you changed the way that you perceive things? What if it didn't matter to you that much anymore? What if enjoying life and not taking it so seriously ranked as high as or higher than getting a commitment with the guy who is dragging his feet on it?
You know what it is that you want which for many of you is a committed relationship with a man who loves and respects you and who would do anything for you, right?
But who is to say that this will happen with the man you are currently with? It doesn't matter if you have been with him five months or five years. There is no way to tell and you cannot coerce him or dish out ultimatums. In any case, that's really no fun for you, is it?
Why not do it the fun way? Here are three easy tips that will inspire any man to want commit to you:
1. Realise that you cannot force a man to do anything that he does not want to do but you can inspire him to want to commit to you. You have to adopt the type of attitude which conveys to him that he is okay for now but you are not quite sure if you want to be with him always.
That is, in essence, what men do all the time anyway so why not take a page out of that book? Remember that he is one of hundreds of men that you could potentially have a good relationship with and it's good that you always have the presence of mind to keep your options open.
2. Detach yourself from any outcome with him. If you two happen to end up in a committed relationship or get married, then that would be a pleasant surprise but right now all you do is to enjoy the time you spend with him and stop thinking about whether he is "the one" or not. When you do that he realizes that you like having him around but your life is not dependent on whether or not he stays around.
3. Start to enjoy your freedom. What is it that you like to do? Start doing more of that, having more fun, putting you first and spending less time with him. When he realizes that you are not too keen on roping him in for a commitment, he'll start to wonder whether or not you even like being with him or having him around. He'll start wondering whether or not you want to commit to him. And that is where you want him...
Before you know it, you are in a committed relationship with a guy who just doesn't want to let you go.
What did you do? You simply changed your perspective and got him hooked on you!
Friday, July 2, 2010
How to spot Mr. Wrong
Hello,
It’s July now and I expect to hear only good things! How is the challenge going?
It’s almost over but you can extend it personally if you wish.
It’s good practice anyway.
You had some time to really get into the swing of things. You should have “easily dated” at least 10 guys between last week and this week. If you did that I am willing to bet that those guys approached, at least some of them anyway.
Yeah, don’t worry, I’m right there with you. You don’t think I’m going to tell you to do something I wouldn’t do myself right?
Just remember ladies, BE SELECTIVE and now you can afford to be.
Why? Because you now have CHOICES!
It’s fine if they approach and it’s fine to be friendly and flirtatious but remember that YOU are in control of who you spend your precious time with.
So if you have any of the following signs or clues coming out of the conversation you may have with any of these guys, wrap it up and move on.
It’s about being empowered and confident enough not to settle for anything less than you want or deserve. In the course of any follow up conversations as you are getting to know him
If he tells you:
1. He is not looking for anything serious
2. He does not want to settle down anytime soon, he just wants to have fun and date
3. He has a child and girlfriend
4. He's "separated" (i.e. married)
5. He wants to have a sex with no strings attached (i.e. booty call or friends with benefits)
Or if he:
1.Says he’ll call and doesn’t
2.Can’t keep his word
3.Can’t keep his story straight in the course of conversation
4.Cancels dates last minute
You simply smile and keep it moving. Do not argue with him, do not try to change him. Do not try to talk it out. There is nothing to talk about. What is there to talk about?
Now I am not saying that some of the situations above cannot lead to something more meaningful but that would be the exception not the rule.
If you know that you cannot handle any of the above, do not waste your time with him. Do not pretend to be okay with any of it if you are not. If you are sure that you want more, know what you want and go after it and DO NOT settle for less. If he is not cutting it ladies, cut him loose.
You know when a man is not cutting it. You can feel it in your gut. Put YOU as Number 1 and raise your standards.
And then suddenly, you realise you have this guy hooked on you and not wanting to let you go.
Talk to you later ladies! Keep having fun!
It’s July now and I expect to hear only good things! How is the challenge going?
It’s almost over but you can extend it personally if you wish.
It’s good practice anyway.
You had some time to really get into the swing of things. You should have “easily dated” at least 10 guys between last week and this week. If you did that I am willing to bet that those guys approached, at least some of them anyway.
Yeah, don’t worry, I’m right there with you. You don’t think I’m going to tell you to do something I wouldn’t do myself right?
Just remember ladies, BE SELECTIVE and now you can afford to be.
Why? Because you now have CHOICES!
It’s fine if they approach and it’s fine to be friendly and flirtatious but remember that YOU are in control of who you spend your precious time with.
So if you have any of the following signs or clues coming out of the conversation you may have with any of these guys, wrap it up and move on.
It’s about being empowered and confident enough not to settle for anything less than you want or deserve. In the course of any follow up conversations as you are getting to know him
If he tells you:
1. He is not looking for anything serious
2. He does not want to settle down anytime soon, he just wants to have fun and date
3. He has a child and girlfriend
4. He's "separated" (i.e. married)
5. He wants to have a sex with no strings attached (i.e. booty call or friends with benefits)
Or if he:
1.Says he’ll call and doesn’t
2.Can’t keep his word
3.Can’t keep his story straight in the course of conversation
4.Cancels dates last minute
You simply smile and keep it moving. Do not argue with him, do not try to change him. Do not try to talk it out. There is nothing to talk about. What is there to talk about?
Now I am not saying that some of the situations above cannot lead to something more meaningful but that would be the exception not the rule.
If you know that you cannot handle any of the above, do not waste your time with him. Do not pretend to be okay with any of it if you are not. If you are sure that you want more, know what you want and go after it and DO NOT settle for less. If he is not cutting it ladies, cut him loose.
You know when a man is not cutting it. You can feel it in your gut. Put YOU as Number 1 and raise your standards.
And then suddenly, you realise you have this guy hooked on you and not wanting to let you go.
Talk to you later ladies! Keep having fun!
Friday, June 25, 2010
How to be irresistible to a man- 3 tips to drive him crazy for you
Hey,
How the challenge going? Here is some more reading material for you when you come home in the evenings from being all sexy, confident and fabulous !
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How do you become irresistible to a man? How do you inspire him to want to be with you and only you? How do you make him have eyes only for you?
In a sense, this might seem like a very tall order especially if your track record with men has not been the best or if you think that you have made every single mistake in the book so far with the man in your life, but it is not.
I remember when my track record sucked but that was because my perspective sucked.
It is very doable once you have a few techniques to get you started. Whatever stage you are right now on the dating scene or with the man in your life, you can turn things around in your favour and have him eating out of the palm of your hand a lot faster than you thought possible.
Everything has to do with your attitude and the vibe that you are giving off to the men around you. The following are just a tip of the iceberg but they will take you closer to your objective of being irresistible.
1. Adopt the attitude that says "I like you and I like being around you but I don't really need to have you around". You don't need to speak these words. It's all in the attitude. You are sweet and charming to be around but you are confident and comfortable in your own skin. It is the confidence that will draw him in.
2. Never stop pursuing your own dreams or living your life because of any man in your life. Continue to enjoy your freedom and your own interests just as you did before he came on the scene.
Adopt the attitude that says "I was living my life just fine before I met you". At this point your passion and your zest for life is visible. That's what keeps you happy and when you are happy you are sexy.
3. Give him the space he needs to enjoy his freedom. Do not crowd him, do not smother him and make him think that you are his second mother. Do not try to tell him what to do or where to go or who to go out with. Leave him be. He is not a child, don't treat him like one. When you do not try to hang on to tightly, he'll want to stay around.
These are just a few tips to get you started on your quest to becoming irresistible to the men around you.
How many men or people in general have you smiled at this week 5, 6?
Keep it up ladies!
Alyssa K
How the challenge going? Here is some more reading material for you when you come home in the evenings from being all sexy, confident and fabulous !
**************************
How do you become irresistible to a man? How do you inspire him to want to be with you and only you? How do you make him have eyes only for you?
In a sense, this might seem like a very tall order especially if your track record with men has not been the best or if you think that you have made every single mistake in the book so far with the man in your life, but it is not.
I remember when my track record sucked but that was because my perspective sucked.
It is very doable once you have a few techniques to get you started. Whatever stage you are right now on the dating scene or with the man in your life, you can turn things around in your favour and have him eating out of the palm of your hand a lot faster than you thought possible.
Everything has to do with your attitude and the vibe that you are giving off to the men around you. The following are just a tip of the iceberg but they will take you closer to your objective of being irresistible.
1. Adopt the attitude that says "I like you and I like being around you but I don't really need to have you around". You don't need to speak these words. It's all in the attitude. You are sweet and charming to be around but you are confident and comfortable in your own skin. It is the confidence that will draw him in.
2. Never stop pursuing your own dreams or living your life because of any man in your life. Continue to enjoy your freedom and your own interests just as you did before he came on the scene.
Adopt the attitude that says "I was living my life just fine before I met you". At this point your passion and your zest for life is visible. That's what keeps you happy and when you are happy you are sexy.
3. Give him the space he needs to enjoy his freedom. Do not crowd him, do not smother him and make him think that you are his second mother. Do not try to tell him what to do or where to go or who to go out with. Leave him be. He is not a child, don't treat him like one. When you do not try to hang on to tightly, he'll want to stay around.
These are just a few tips to get you started on your quest to becoming irresistible to the men around you.
How many men or people in general have you smiled at this week 5, 6?
Keep it up ladies!
Alyssa K
Monday, May 31, 2010
On dates and in relationships: how do you feel?
Hey,
How’s it is going?
I was thinking about my past relationships and interaction with guys I wanted to ask you ladies a few questions just to see if you could relate:
For the single ladies:
-Do you ever feel as though there are no normal, single, quality available men left?
-Do you feel as though you meet men who are either married, have a girlfriend or otherwise not relationship material?
-Do you feel as though you always meet men who are afraid of commitment or settling down?
-When you go out with guys and you are having a good time, do you start thinking “hmmm, I wonder if he is the one” or “I think this is it”.
For ladies in (long term) relationships:
-Do you find that you are anxious all the time, like you have fun with your guy but you really are not that relaxed around him?
-Do you wonder if he is happy with you?
-Do you find yourself wondering if your boyfriend really wants to be with you long term or marry you?
-Do you find yourself bringing up the topic of commitment or thinking about marriage all the time?
-Do you find yourself always thinking of what the future could be like with him – where you will live or how many children you have?
-Do you call your boyfriend all the time to check up on him?
-Do you want him to spend all his time with you?
- Do you and your guy end up bickering over frivolous things?
Just mull over these questions and see what answers you come up with…
I’ll be back with my own experiences.
I’d be really interested in hearing your answers to these questions too if any of you want to share because the answers will determine how you feel about YOU.
How you feel about YOU determines how your boyfriend or any potential guy in your life feels about YOU and how HOOKED on you he becomes.
It is also directly related to how much emotional attraction you can build with the guy in your life.
It’s an interesting phenomenon!
That’s your assignment for the next few days!
Ciao ladies
Alyssa K
How’s it is going?
I was thinking about my past relationships and interaction with guys I wanted to ask you ladies a few questions just to see if you could relate:
For the single ladies:
-Do you ever feel as though there are no normal, single, quality available men left?
-Do you feel as though you meet men who are either married, have a girlfriend or otherwise not relationship material?
-Do you feel as though you always meet men who are afraid of commitment or settling down?
-When you go out with guys and you are having a good time, do you start thinking “hmmm, I wonder if he is the one” or “I think this is it”.
For ladies in (long term) relationships:
-Do you find that you are anxious all the time, like you have fun with your guy but you really are not that relaxed around him?
-Do you wonder if he is happy with you?
-Do you find yourself wondering if your boyfriend really wants to be with you long term or marry you?
-Do you find yourself bringing up the topic of commitment or thinking about marriage all the time?
-Do you find yourself always thinking of what the future could be like with him – where you will live or how many children you have?
-Do you call your boyfriend all the time to check up on him?
-Do you want him to spend all his time with you?
- Do you and your guy end up bickering over frivolous things?
Just mull over these questions and see what answers you come up with…
I’ll be back with my own experiences.
I’d be really interested in hearing your answers to these questions too if any of you want to share because the answers will determine how you feel about YOU.
How you feel about YOU determines how your boyfriend or any potential guy in your life feels about YOU and how HOOKED on you he becomes.
It is also directly related to how much emotional attraction you can build with the guy in your life.
It’s an interesting phenomenon!
That’s your assignment for the next few days!
Ciao ladies
Alyssa K
Tuesday, May 25, 2010
How to get a guy hooked on you - Focus on YOU!
Hey ladies,
Hope your relationships are shaping up like you are wanting them to.
If that is happening then it means that a shift is happening within YOU.
YOU changed something and so the dynamic of the relationship started to change.
I was thinking of something recently that I wanted to share which I think is important.
Here on the blog and in other places on the internet no doubt, the advice you will get is pretty clear.
It might appear as though there is a certain set of rules to follow when dealing with guys.
So there is specific advice on:
-becoming a "bitch"
-calling men
-asking guys out on dates
-how to get a guy's attention
-correcting mistakes you made so far
What I wanted to point out here though is that the above advice is just the start.
You have to start somewhere.
You see when you put any the advice into practice and you get your hands on any of the resources, that is the first step.
The resources give you the first insight into the mistakes you have been making and how to correct them and give you the first real feeling of control over your life and your love life.
From there you need to internalize the advice in a way that allows your own personality and femininity to shine through and so become the unique woman that wins his heart.
Even though you have been seeing results with the techniques you have read about here on the blog, started using the advice,
to get the “it” factor, you have to take that advice and work it into your life and allow it to mesh with who you are at the core.
Don’t forget that these resources are just there to help you and guide you to becoming the lady who inspires a man to want to be with her and only her.
Here’s what else I want you to do though.
Think about
-how would you describe yourself?
-What are you passionate about?
-Is there anything that makes your eyes light up when you do it or think about it?
-What is it about you that people really like?
-Can you honestly say that you are happy where you are right now in life?
-If not, is it because you see happiness as a destination?
-Are you comfortable with yourself?
-Are you at peace with yourself?
I’ll tell you why all this is important.
If you only focus on applying the techniques which will work no doubt,
you still have not dealt with the underlying issues that have a negative impact on your level of confidence when dealing with yourself and with others.
Remember that when you know who YOU are at the core, this is when the real magic starts!
When you are at peace and happy with YOURSELF, those are the vibes that you will automatically transmit to the guy in your life (and to other people around you by the way).
If a guy likes being in your presence BECAUSE he feels at peace and happy with you, what do you think is going to happen when you mix that with the advice and the tips you have been learning?
Ciao ladies
Alyssa K
Hope your relationships are shaping up like you are wanting them to.
If that is happening then it means that a shift is happening within YOU.
YOU changed something and so the dynamic of the relationship started to change.
I was thinking of something recently that I wanted to share which I think is important.
Here on the blog and in other places on the internet no doubt, the advice you will get is pretty clear.
It might appear as though there is a certain set of rules to follow when dealing with guys.
So there is specific advice on:
-becoming a "bitch"
-calling men
-asking guys out on dates
-how to get a guy's attention
-correcting mistakes you made so far
What I wanted to point out here though is that the above advice is just the start.
You have to start somewhere.
You see when you put any the advice into practice and you get your hands on any of the resources, that is the first step.
The resources give you the first insight into the mistakes you have been making and how to correct them and give you the first real feeling of control over your life and your love life.
From there you need to internalize the advice in a way that allows your own personality and femininity to shine through and so become the unique woman that wins his heart.
Even though you have been seeing results with the techniques you have read about here on the blog, started using the advice,
to get the “it” factor, you have to take that advice and work it into your life and allow it to mesh with who you are at the core.
Don’t forget that these resources are just there to help you and guide you to becoming the lady who inspires a man to want to be with her and only her.
Here’s what else I want you to do though.
Think about
-how would you describe yourself?
-What are you passionate about?
-Is there anything that makes your eyes light up when you do it or think about it?
-What is it about you that people really like?
-Can you honestly say that you are happy where you are right now in life?
-If not, is it because you see happiness as a destination?
-Are you comfortable with yourself?
-Are you at peace with yourself?
I’ll tell you why all this is important.
If you only focus on applying the techniques which will work no doubt,
you still have not dealt with the underlying issues that have a negative impact on your level of confidence when dealing with yourself and with others.
Remember that when you know who YOU are at the core, this is when the real magic starts!
When you are at peace and happy with YOURSELF, those are the vibes that you will automatically transmit to the guy in your life (and to other people around you by the way).
If a guy likes being in your presence BECAUSE he feels at peace and happy with you, what do you think is going to happen when you mix that with the advice and the tips you have been learning?
Ciao ladies
Alyssa K
Thursday, May 20, 2010
How to NOT scare a guy off -Part 2
Hey Ladies,
How is it going?
I took a cool stroll today and just breathed in the fresh smell of late spring. It felt good to feel at one with nature. I’m definitely doing that again before the week is over.
We are still on the topic of how NOT to scare a guy off.
I’m talking here about guys whom you have just met and also about guys whom you have been dating for a while and really been in long term relationships with.
You all know me by now and know how I love to tell stories (true stories) to illustrate my point.
Today I was having a conversation with this guy. He’s 31. He said that he broke up with his girlfriend because she was talking about getting married all the time and pressuring him.
In the end he said he just could not deal with it anymore. He admitted that at the beginning he did say sure we’ll get married but…that was just to get her to stop talking about it.
He then said that women need to chill out and not talk about marriage and babies on the first date.
Let me add here that this is not the first guy I have heard say this and I am also talking about guys who have been in long term relationships so you really can’t say here that they are afraid of committing to one woman.
In the male mind, a woman who will talk about marriage and kids constantly is:
-More interested in getting married than in me
-Coming on too fast too soon and appears desperate to get a ring
-Applying too much pressure
It’s the same thing as well if you go out with a guy and on the first date you are talking marriage and kids. Give the guy a chance to get to know you first for YOU. Give yourself a chance to see if this is someone you want to be the father of your children.
I’ll share another story with you. There’s another couple I know who recently got together so they have been seeing each other for about six months now.
Already the lady is planning the wedding and has already voiced this to her boyfriend. She said that her boyfriend “agreed” with her and that he said, they would get married in two years.
It seems then that she has been bringing up the topic of marriage and he is agreeing just like the other guy I had a conversation with just to get her to back off. By saying two years, he gets her to shut up about it but buys himself some time to find a way out and find someone else...
In addition, she is constantly around him. It appears as though if she could spend every waking minute in his presence she would. Recently she has been complaining that her boyfriend has not been taking all of her calls and has been telling her he is busy...
Now if you have been following the blog I know you know all the mistakes that she has been making and that unless she does serious damage control and gets him to stop pulling away, the days for this relationship are numbered.
Ladies, please cool it with this. This is NOT the way to get any guy hooked on you. It will push him away.
What you want is for him to know that you are comfortable in your own skin, confident, alluring, seductive and no-nonsense. At this point then, he really can't help but to get hooked on you, now can he?
Click here to download your copy of Man Mistake Eraser (a review of this resource is available on the blog and have fun all the way through the course. At the end of it you'll draw any guy worth YOUR time closer.
The objective is to get him hooked on you, to cherish you and want to be with you only. Therefore you have to act in a way that inspires him to do that.
As always, any questions or is you would like any extra help in finding the resource that will meet your needs, email me at askalyssak@gmail.com
Those who have emailed me in the last 2 days I'm responding tonight!
Ciao ladies
Alyssa K
How is it going?
I took a cool stroll today and just breathed in the fresh smell of late spring. It felt good to feel at one with nature. I’m definitely doing that again before the week is over.
We are still on the topic of how NOT to scare a guy off.
I’m talking here about guys whom you have just met and also about guys whom you have been dating for a while and really been in long term relationships with.
You all know me by now and know how I love to tell stories (true stories) to illustrate my point.
Today I was having a conversation with this guy. He’s 31. He said that he broke up with his girlfriend because she was talking about getting married all the time and pressuring him.
In the end he said he just could not deal with it anymore. He admitted that at the beginning he did say sure we’ll get married but…that was just to get her to stop talking about it.
He then said that women need to chill out and not talk about marriage and babies on the first date.
Let me add here that this is not the first guy I have heard say this and I am also talking about guys who have been in long term relationships so you really can’t say here that they are afraid of committing to one woman.
In the male mind, a woman who will talk about marriage and kids constantly is:
-More interested in getting married than in me
-Coming on too fast too soon and appears desperate to get a ring
-Applying too much pressure
It’s the same thing as well if you go out with a guy and on the first date you are talking marriage and kids. Give the guy a chance to get to know you first for YOU. Give yourself a chance to see if this is someone you want to be the father of your children.
I’ll share another story with you. There’s another couple I know who recently got together so they have been seeing each other for about six months now.
Already the lady is planning the wedding and has already voiced this to her boyfriend. She said that her boyfriend “agreed” with her and that he said, they would get married in two years.
It seems then that she has been bringing up the topic of marriage and he is agreeing just like the other guy I had a conversation with just to get her to back off. By saying two years, he gets her to shut up about it but buys himself some time to find a way out and find someone else...
In addition, she is constantly around him. It appears as though if she could spend every waking minute in his presence she would. Recently she has been complaining that her boyfriend has not been taking all of her calls and has been telling her he is busy...
Now if you have been following the blog I know you know all the mistakes that she has been making and that unless she does serious damage control and gets him to stop pulling away, the days for this relationship are numbered.
Ladies, please cool it with this. This is NOT the way to get any guy hooked on you. It will push him away.
What you want is for him to know that you are comfortable in your own skin, confident, alluring, seductive and no-nonsense. At this point then, he really can't help but to get hooked on you, now can he?
Click here to download your copy of Man Mistake Eraser (a review of this resource is available on the blog and have fun all the way through the course. At the end of it you'll draw any guy worth YOUR time closer.
The objective is to get him hooked on you, to cherish you and want to be with you only. Therefore you have to act in a way that inspires him to do that.
As always, any questions or is you would like any extra help in finding the resource that will meet your needs, email me at askalyssak@gmail.com
Those who have emailed me in the last 2 days I'm responding tonight!
Ciao ladies
Alyssa K
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