Showing posts with label how to get a guy hooked. Show all posts
Showing posts with label how to get a guy hooked. Show all posts

Wednesday, July 7, 2010

Should I tell him I love him - 4 ways to assess the situation

Hey,

I got this question a few times recently.

If we have been dating or seeing a guy for a while, we become more and more into him until we feel like we have fallen head over heels in love with him.

We spend more and more time with him and things are going so well that we feel compelled to tell him exactly how we feel.

I am all for honesty and being up front and direct with people but I tend to err on the side of caution where men are concerned and I never go faster than they do. In other words, if a man has not said "I love you" nor hinted at it, then I will not say it.

Some women say that if you want to tell a man that you love him, you should just go right ahead and tell him. What's the worst that can happen, right?

Well, if you had that same mindset, then you wouldn't be asking the question "should I tell him that I love him?" You would just have told him.

Here's how you can access the situation though and make a decision. Mull over the following questions.

1. What is it that you are hoping to gain by telling him that you love him? Do you hope that by telling him that that you and he will become closer and that your bond will deepen? Are you hoping that it will take your relationship to the next level? Are you hoping that he feels the same way about you?

2. How long have you been seeing each other? Remember that men and women view dating and relationships very differently and although you have been seeing him for six months and feel like you have fallen in love, he might not feel the same way. Has he been dropping any hints that he may love you too?

3. How would you feel if he did not say it back to you or doesn't that matter? Are you sufficiently detached from the outcome of any such conversation so that if you say it and he does not respond in kind that you could simply say "well, it doesn't matter but I love you and I wanted you to know that". Seriously, if this is the way you feel, then by all means tell him.

4. Are you prepared to face the possibility that he may not feel the same way and that your telling him that may spook him and send him running in the next direction? If that were to happen, do you know how to reverse that situation?

I am really not trying to be pessimistic here but these are valid questions that I think you should mull over. Once you have assessed the situation and you accept that you are taking on a big risk, then go for it! When you take a big risk, it either pays great dividends or you lose everything.

If you are positive that he is hooked on you, then take the risk!

If not, don't do it!

You'll be putting yourself in a position that you do not want to be in.

There is another way.

How about inspiring him to fall in love with you by being the beautiful, sexy confident, no-nonsense lady that you are! No fear of making any mistakes with him because you are in control of you, your emotions and who you give your heart to and who you let in.

Now, how about getting him to say he loves you and wants no one but you... UNPROMPTED!

How do you think you would feel then? He is saying it because he means it with no prompting from you.

Correct ladies, correct...Now that would be quite an achievement!

Alyssa K

How to get a man to commit to you - 3 fun and easy ways to do it

hey ladies,

When you start thinking "does he want a relationship with me?"; "I need to know where I stand with him"; "Why won't he marry me?"; "does he want to get married?", then something isn't right. You have to nip this in the bud quickly.

Some women go through this all the time and it gets worse as the relationship drags on. We go through all sorts of mental gymnastics on how to get the guy we are dating to commit to a relationship with us or how to get our boyfriends to commit to marriage.

Somehow we have been conditioned to expect that any man whom we are seeing or dating at the time should be the man we are meant to be with for all eternity especially if the relationship has been a long term one. We somehow expect that the guy whom we are dating and to whom we have grown attached should feel the same way and want to commit to us.

But what if you changed the way that you perceive things? What if it didn't matter to you that much anymore? What if enjoying life and not taking it so seriously ranked as high as or higher than getting a commitment with the guy who is dragging his feet on it?

You know what it is that you want which for many of you is a committed relationship with a man who loves and respects you and who would do anything for you, right?

But who is to say that this will happen with the man you are currently with? It doesn't matter if you have been with him five months or five years. There is no way to tell and you cannot coerce him or dish out ultimatums. In any case, that's really no fun for you, is it?

Why not do it the fun way? Here are three easy tips that will inspire any man to want commit to you:

1. Realise that you cannot force a man to do anything that he does not want to do but you can inspire him to want to commit to you. You have to adopt the type of attitude which conveys to him that he is okay for now but you are not quite sure if you want to be with him always.

That is, in essence, what men do all the time anyway so why not take a page out of that book? Remember that he is one of hundreds of men that you could potentially have a good relationship with and it's good that you always have the presence of mind to keep your options open.

2. Detach yourself from any outcome with him. If you two happen to end up in a committed relationship or get married, then that would be a pleasant surprise but right now all you do is to enjoy the time you spend with him and stop thinking about whether he is "the one" or not. When you do that he realizes that you like having him around but your life is not dependent on whether or not he stays around.

3. Start to enjoy your freedom. What is it that you like to do? Start doing more of that, having more fun, putting you first and spending less time with him. When he realizes that you are not too keen on roping him in for a commitment, he'll start to wonder whether or not you even like being with him or having him around. He'll start wondering whether or not you want to commit to him. And that is where you want him...

Before you know it, you are in a committed relationship with a guy who just doesn't want to let you go.

What did you do? You simply changed your perspective and got him hooked on you!

Friday, July 2, 2010

How to spot Mr. Wrong

Hello,

It’s July now and I expect to hear only good things! How is the challenge going?

It’s almost over but you can extend it personally if you wish.

It’s good practice anyway.

You had some time to really get into the swing of things. You should have “easily dated” at least 10 guys between last week and this week. If you did that I am willing to bet that those guys approached, at least some of them anyway.

Yeah, don’t worry, I’m right there with you. You don’t think I’m going to tell you to do something I wouldn’t do myself right?

Just remember ladies, BE SELECTIVE and now you can afford to be.

Why? Because you now have CHOICES!

It’s fine if they approach and it’s fine to be friendly and flirtatious but remember that YOU are in control of who you spend your precious time with.

So if you have any of the following signs or clues coming out of the conversation you may have with any of these guys, wrap it up and move on.

It’s about being empowered and confident enough not to settle for anything less than you want or deserve. In the course of any follow up conversations as you are getting to know him

If he tells you:

1. He is not looking for anything serious
2. He does not want to settle down anytime soon, he just wants to have fun and date
3. He has a child and girlfriend
4. He's "separated" (i.e. married)
5. He wants to have a sex with no strings attached (i.e. booty call or friends with benefits)

Or if he:

1.Says he’ll call and doesn’t
2.Can’t keep his word
3.Can’t keep his story straight in the course of conversation
4.Cancels dates last minute

You simply smile and keep it moving. Do not argue with him, do not try to change him. Do not try to talk it out. There is nothing to talk about. What is there to talk about?

Now I am not saying that some of the situations above cannot lead to something more meaningful but that would be the exception not the rule.

If you know that you cannot handle any of the above, do not waste your time with him. Do not pretend to be okay with any of it if you are not. If you are sure that you want more, know what you want and go after it and DO NOT settle for less. If he is not cutting it ladies, cut him loose.

You know when a man is not cutting it. You can feel it in your gut. Put YOU as Number 1 and raise your standards.

And then suddenly, you realise you have this guy hooked on you and not wanting to let you go.

Talk to you later ladies! Keep having fun!

Friday, June 25, 2010

How to be irresistible to a man- 3 tips to drive him crazy for you

Hey,

How the challenge going? Here is some more reading material for you when you come home in the evenings from being all sexy, confident and fabulous !

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How do you become irresistible to a man? How do you inspire him to want to be with you and only you? How do you make him have eyes only for you?

In a sense, this might seem like a very tall order especially if your track record with men has not been the best or if you think that you have made every single mistake in the book so far with the man in your life, but it is not.

I remember when my track record sucked but that was because my perspective sucked.

It is very doable once you have a few techniques to get you started. Whatever stage you are right now on the dating scene or with the man in your life, you can turn things around in your favour and have him eating out of the palm of your hand a lot faster than you thought possible.

Everything has to do with your attitude and the vibe that you are giving off to the men around you. The following are just a tip of the iceberg but they will take you closer to your objective of being irresistible.

1. Adopt the attitude that says "I like you and I like being around you but I don't really need to have you around". You don't need to speak these words. It's all in the attitude. You are sweet and charming to be around but you are confident and comfortable in your own skin. It is the confidence that will draw him in.

2. Never stop pursuing your own dreams or living your life because of any man in your life. Continue to enjoy your freedom and your own interests just as you did before he came on the scene.

Adopt the attitude that says "I was living my life just fine before I met you". At this point your passion and your zest for life is visible. That's what keeps you happy and when you are happy you are sexy.

3. Give him the space he needs to enjoy his freedom. Do not crowd him, do not smother him and make him think that you are his second mother. Do not try to tell him what to do or where to go or who to go out with. Leave him be. He is not a child, don't treat him like one. When you do not try to hang on to tightly, he'll want to stay around.

These are just a few tips to get you started on your quest to becoming irresistible to the men around you.

How many men or people in general have you smiled at this week 5, 6?

Keep it up ladies!

Alyssa K

Tuesday, May 25, 2010

How to get a guy hooked on you - Focus on YOU!

Hey ladies,

Hope your relationships are shaping up like you are wanting them to.

If that is happening then it means that a shift is happening within YOU.

YOU changed something and so the dynamic of the relationship started to change.

I was thinking of something recently that I wanted to share which I think is important.

Here on the blog and in other places on the internet no doubt, the advice you will get is pretty clear.

It might appear as though there is a certain set of rules to follow when dealing with guys.

So there is specific advice on:

-becoming a "bitch"

-calling men

-asking guys out on dates

-how to get a guy's attention

-correcting mistakes you made so far

What I wanted to point out here though is that the above advice is just the start.
You have to start somewhere.

You see when you put any the advice into practice and you get your hands on any of the resources, that is the first step.

The resources give you the first insight into the mistakes you have been making and how to correct them and give you the first real feeling of control over your life and your love life.

From there you need to internalize the advice in a way that allows your own personality and femininity to shine through and so become the unique woman that wins his heart.

Even though you have been seeing results with the techniques you have read about here on the blog, started using the advice,

to get the “it” factor, you have to take that advice and work it into your life and allow it to mesh with who you are at the core.

Don’t forget that these resources are just there to help you and guide you to becoming the lady who inspires a man to want to be with her and only her.

Here’s what else I want you to do though.

Think about

-how would you describe yourself?

-What are you passionate about?

-Is there anything that makes your eyes light up when you do it or think about it?

-What is it about you that people really like?

-Can you honestly say that you are happy where you are right now in life?

-If not, is it because you see happiness as a destination?

-Are you comfortable with yourself?

-Are you at peace with yourself?

I’ll tell you why all this is important.

If you only focus on applying the techniques which will work no doubt,

you still have not dealt with the underlying issues that have a negative impact on your level of confidence when dealing with yourself and with others.

Remember that when you know who YOU are at the core, this is when the real magic starts!

When you are at peace and happy with YOURSELF, those are the vibes that you will automatically transmit to the guy in your life (and to other people around you by the way).

If a guy likes being in your presence BECAUSE he feels at peace and happy with you, what do you think is going to happen when you mix that with the advice and the tips you have been learning?

Ciao ladies

Alyssa K

Monday, May 3, 2010

How can I be more attractive? Lesson from a Party

Hi ladies,

I hope you ladies had a wonderful weekend! I hope you got out and mingled and had fun!

I know I did!

I went to this party on Saturday night. Yes, another one and this one was amazing! There were easily about 200 people there. The music, the food and the people and the company made for an excellent night!

Of course you know in the midst of me dancing up a storm and mingling, I was observing. That way I always have something to let you ladies in on lol…

What is it that makes quality guys approach some ladies and not others at a club or a party? What is it that makes some women more attractive than others regardless of looks?

When I say quality guys I mean the guys are confident, attractive and self-assured, the ones that can have any woman they choose, the ones with swagger, the ones that know they have enough guts to approach any woman without fear of rejection because they know they got it going on…

I am not being superficial here either. Yes a beautiful woman is always going to attract stares from men because men are visual creatures and they will see outer beauty first but outer beauty means nothing if you do not appear attractive to men, unless you have a high attraction quotient (AQ).

I noticed that at this party, there were many of the ladies were very pretty, well put together, hair and nails done, make up on point…

Problem is most of them just sat around in the corner or stood against the wall pouting or looking serious. Hello! It’s a party, nobody died, the music is great and you have your friends all around you, serious eye-candy! What more could you ask for?

Get up and dance, shake a leg, at least put a smile on your face, look and feel confident and radiant. That is what draws people to you generally. I met a few other ladies there as well just because they were dancing up a storm just like I was. Like attracts like…

All of the ladies who were dancing and looking and feeling good and not giving a flip either way were being approached and asked to dance. Men were walking up to us and initiating conversation. If you happen to meet a cool guy great, if not it doesn’t matter. It’s just the opportunity for you to meet new people, flirt, practise your new techniques and keep it moving.

The next time you go to a party:

1.Look your best
2.Feel your best
3.Make up your mind to have fun
4.Smile and look approachable
5.Dance and dance well
6.Flirt like there is no tomorrow
7.Adopt an attitude that says “I do not give a flip about anything, I’m here to have fun”
8.Adopt an attitude that says “I am free and by George I am going to enjoy my freedom”
9.Move around and mingle. Don’t stand or dance in one area or stand talking to one man for the entire night. No ladies…
10.REALLY HAVE FUN!

That is how you start to become a people magnet. That’s one of the first steps to getting him hooked. If you can do this for one night at a party, you can learn to do it for a lifetime quite easily if you have a manual you can follow! Manuals make life so much easier!

If you need some help with this and extra tips for the days after the party where you happened to meet a cool guy you are interested in, click here for this gem of an e-book. You can start reading it tonight and getting in gear.

The techniques in this book are really powerful. You do not know when you'll meet a guy you like and if you really like him, you do NOT want to scare him off. You want to get him hooked on you! That's the objective!

I will hear you ladies tomorrow! If you have any crises between now and then lol, you know where to find me.

Ciao bellas

Alyssa K

Thursday, April 22, 2010

What is their Secret?

Have you been trying to find out what it is that will make guys hooked on you? I’m talking about making them go completely crazy over you as in falling all over themselves to be with you.

You ever noticed that some women just seem to know exactly what to do to make guys swarm them like bees to honey?

What is it about these women that make men feel as though they have to be with them and no other woman?

How do these women snag their guys and keep them completely hooked?

What is it that these women have? What is their secret?

Are they extraordinarily beautiful?

Are they supermodels?

Do they have the 36-24-36 figures?

Are they all high powered CEOs?

Are they millionaires?

Not all the time. But all of the women who get their guys to fall completely head over heels in love with them and manage to keep them hooked have a secret.

And that’s exactly what we’ll be talking about here!

Expect free tips and all sorts of other resources to teach you the art of getting a guy hooked on you. Your guys will love you for it because you now become their dream women! You become the woman your man simply cannot imagine doing without!

It won’t be all talk though, we’ll be taking action! You ladies ready? Trust me, you have the time of your life with this!

If you ever need specific advice or would like me to share your story or answer it on the blog email me at askalyssak@gmail.com! Looking forward to hearing from you!

Ciao

Alyssa K.