Sunday, October 17, 2010

You teach people how to treat you

Very often, we get into relationships with men who we really should not have even allowed to talk to us let alone touch us.

I’m serious. These are the men who should be happy we even blink in their direction.

I wonder why we do it. I think a lot of it has to do with self-esteem. How do you view yourself? How much value do you place on yourself? How much pride do you take in yourself?

Sometimes I hear stories of women who are in abusive relationships, in relationships with men who are cheating, in relationships with married men or men who have girlfriends, men who are flaky and wishy-washy, men who still won’t propose after 5+ years. I mean really?

They complain about the treatment they are receiving but yet cannot seem to walk away from these men and these waste of time and energy relationships.

What is it about a man who is not treating you well that makes you want to cling to him and not let him go? What is it?

It is clear that he is not worth your time or energy so why is it so hard to let go of someone who treats you like crap?

It goes right back to your self-esteem and self worth. What do you really think about yourself?

Do you think that you are beautiful and that you deserve a loving relationship?

Do you think that you have a lot going for you? Do you really?

Do you think that your life has meaning?

Have you found your passion?

Do you think that you deserve to be with a man who treats you with respect?

Do you think that you deserve to be with a man who only has eyes for you?

Do you think that you deserve to be with a man who only wants to date you and be in a committed relationship with you?

Do you think that you deserve to be with a man who sees your value and acts accordingly?

Do you think that you deserve to be with a man who knows that you are the one he wants to marry?

If the answer to all of these questions is yes, why is it that so many of us stay in relationships with men who are not treating us as we deserve to be treated?

You teach people how to treat you. If you don’t treat yourself with respect because you do not know or do not believe in your true value, how can you expect the man you are involved with at some farcical level to treat you any better?

It cannot work.

You set the tone for how you want to be treated. You show him how you want and expect to be treated because you are aware of your worth. If he cannot deal with that, if he cannot step up to the plate, then he can move right along.

You cannot be that desperate for a relationship that you accept the scraps a man throws at you because he thinks he is above treating you as you deserve.

Ladies if he is not treating you as you deserve to be treated, MOVE ON! NEXT…

If it sounds ruthless and heartless, then you really do not know your worth. To find your dime, you be a dime.

If you see yourself as you truly are, you are on your way to having the life and love that you want.

I particularly like Calling Men and Man mistake Eraser because they help you to put you in a position of power and control. It is from this place that you get exactly what you want and deserve!


Alyssa K

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