Hey,
Do you ever feel like you are doing too much for the man you are seeing but he is doing absolutely nothing?
Do you feel like you don't even know how he feels about you? How much does he even like being around you?
You are the one calling and emailing, planning dates, trying to figure out how to make him feel better, giving him what he likes, making him feel like a VIP.
But yet, doesn't it seem like you are getting the short end of the stick where he is concerned? Like he doesn't really care either way?
You are the one thinking of him ALL the time but you don't get the impression that he is thinking of you at all.
I remember when I used to strategically plan my next move with guys. I kid you not. That used to really get me teed off.
What you really want is for the guy in your life to think about you and put in some effort, right?
You want him to think of you and wonder about what you are doing, when he'll hear from you again and how YOU feel about HIM.
When he starts thinking of you like this, he HAS to want more from you. He has no control over it anymore. That's what you really want right?
You want him to be like "oh wait, I haven't talked to her in a while", or "I haven't seen her in a while" but it might just have been a day or two. Then he picks up the phone to call you and he asks YOU what you are doing this weekend.
Why?
Because HE wants to see YOU. And the best part about it is, you didn't have to lift a finger. This is how you inspire him to want to be around you. You don't want to be the one wondering if or when you'll hear from him next or if he wants to see you or not.
You don't want to be wondering why he hasn't called you anymore. Those days are over! It's time for a change. You can only do that though when you make him a little bit uncomfortable.
The key is to stay one step behind him but two steps ahead at all times.
All you have to do to keep him wanting more of you is to never come on stronger than he does. So for example if he says "I think we should see each other more often", you say "well, hold on, we'll see how it goes. I don't know if I want to see you more often". Of course, you smile when you say this.
This will drive him crazy because he has no clue what you mean. But now, you have him exactly where you want him.
But again, you can only do this if your perspective has changed. It's not about acting, pretending or playing games. Remember that men and people in general I might add pick up on the VIBE you give off and that vibe, aura, energy, whatever you want to call it, is all that matters.
The reason you can stay one step behind him and not come on strong is because you understand that he is NOT the be all and end all of your life and he does not need to be treated as such.
After all, you are just dating him. Even if you are his girlfriend...
So then, you can fully enjoy your freedom, enjoy your time with him, time away from him and remain OPEN to the idea of going even further with him IF YOU think that you two vibe well together.
See what I'm saying? It's all about changing your perspective and that is what many of the posts on this blog are about.
Alyssa K
Showing posts with label how to keep a man's interest. Show all posts
Showing posts with label how to keep a man's interest. Show all posts
Friday, June 25, 2010
Friday, May 7, 2010
Should I call him first? Mistake Number 1
Hello ladies,
How are you all lovely ladies doing today? I know that many of you are feeling a lot better now with the guys in your life. That is EXCELLENT!
Keep doing what you are doing.
You know what my next question is going to be since it’s a Friday! What do you have planned for this weekend? And if you have nothing planned as yet to do for YOU then spend the rest of today thinking about a plan for tonight and tomorrow. I’m serious ladies…
For those of you with dates this weekend with a new guy or your long term boyfriend or husband, have fun, kick back, enjoy yourself and let YOU shine through. At every step you want to be doing YOU but drawing him in.
It’s a perfect weekend all round to try out any new techniques!
We’ve been talking about mistakes we ladies make with guys and I had to talk to you about this one because this is one that can be easily overlooked.
Now I know that I may get a lot of resistance about this one but I am prepared to take it because I have the proof that this one does not bring pleasant results at all.
I am talking about calling a man first . I am speaking from past personal experience and from the stories I have heard from my girlfriends. IT DOES NOT TURN OUT WELL.
Ladies, if you go out this weekend and you meet a cool guy and you two exchange numbers, please do NOT call him. I do not care if it takes him 50 years to call you, do NOT call him.
It might seem silly and you may think, what’s the harm? It’s one stupid phone call.
Here’s the harm…
Most men do NOT view women calling first favourably…but they will almost NEVER tell you that. Add calling him first to all the other mistakes you will make in future with him, you are doomed with this man BEFORE you start.
Guaranteed that if you call a man first, you WILL make other mistakes with him.
Ladies, this is tough love I am giving here.
•It is NOT your role to call him first period. Let him be the man and step up to the plate and call you if he is interested in you. If he is not interested in you, some other man who is perhaps 100 times more suited to you will be interested in you and will call you. Whatever happens you have to let men be men and pursue who they are interested in. Trust me when I say that if you made a good first impression, he WILL call you. You would have fulfilled your role by drawing him in enough to you to call you and that is ALL you need to do.
•The moment you start wondering why he hasn’t called you and looking at the phone, waiting around by the phone and then God forbid, picking up the phone 50 times and saying “should I call him?”, “I am going to call”, “no I can’t call”, “That’s it, I’m calling” and then you CALL, you have already lost control of you and the situation. Just walk him to the door now and wave bye bye…
•You are already in that place of fear and insecurity because you now have no clue whether he ever planned on calling you or if he is really into you. There is no way you can be confident and appear attractive enough to him to have him crave being around you, at least not for the long term. All your uncertainty and doubt will go straight through the phone and be felt by him. You have already LOST, bella!
Ladies, I know this is causing problems for many of you. If you have always had problems with this, click here and solve this once and for all and to learn how to stop making all the other mistakes that stop you from becoming the woman that inspires a man to crave being around her. You now know how to keep his interest.
It is when a man wants more than anything to be around you long term, that you are officially one of the women with the SECRET! You will officially be one of the dream women.
IMPORTANT ANNOUNCEMENT
For those of you who order any of the resources you find on my blog between now and May 31st, I will be offering free one on one advice, as in on the PHONE. Yes I actually want to talk to you ladies and hear from you :)!
Ciao bellas
Alyssa K
How are you all lovely ladies doing today? I know that many of you are feeling a lot better now with the guys in your life. That is EXCELLENT!
Keep doing what you are doing.
You know what my next question is going to be since it’s a Friday! What do you have planned for this weekend? And if you have nothing planned as yet to do for YOU then spend the rest of today thinking about a plan for tonight and tomorrow. I’m serious ladies…
For those of you with dates this weekend with a new guy or your long term boyfriend or husband, have fun, kick back, enjoy yourself and let YOU shine through. At every step you want to be doing YOU but drawing him in.
It’s a perfect weekend all round to try out any new techniques!
We’ve been talking about mistakes we ladies make with guys and I had to talk to you about this one because this is one that can be easily overlooked.
Now I know that I may get a lot of resistance about this one but I am prepared to take it because I have the proof that this one does not bring pleasant results at all.
I am talking about calling a man first . I am speaking from past personal experience and from the stories I have heard from my girlfriends. IT DOES NOT TURN OUT WELL.
Ladies, if you go out this weekend and you meet a cool guy and you two exchange numbers, please do NOT call him. I do not care if it takes him 50 years to call you, do NOT call him.
It might seem silly and you may think, what’s the harm? It’s one stupid phone call.
Here’s the harm…
Most men do NOT view women calling first favourably…but they will almost NEVER tell you that. Add calling him first to all the other mistakes you will make in future with him, you are doomed with this man BEFORE you start.
Guaranteed that if you call a man first, you WILL make other mistakes with him.
Ladies, this is tough love I am giving here.
•It is NOT your role to call him first period. Let him be the man and step up to the plate and call you if he is interested in you. If he is not interested in you, some other man who is perhaps 100 times more suited to you will be interested in you and will call you. Whatever happens you have to let men be men and pursue who they are interested in. Trust me when I say that if you made a good first impression, he WILL call you. You would have fulfilled your role by drawing him in enough to you to call you and that is ALL you need to do.
•The moment you start wondering why he hasn’t called you and looking at the phone, waiting around by the phone and then God forbid, picking up the phone 50 times and saying “should I call him?”, “I am going to call”, “no I can’t call”, “That’s it, I’m calling” and then you CALL, you have already lost control of you and the situation. Just walk him to the door now and wave bye bye…
•You are already in that place of fear and insecurity because you now have no clue whether he ever planned on calling you or if he is really into you. There is no way you can be confident and appear attractive enough to him to have him crave being around you, at least not for the long term. All your uncertainty and doubt will go straight through the phone and be felt by him. You have already LOST, bella!
Ladies, I know this is causing problems for many of you. If you have always had problems with this, click here and solve this once and for all and to learn how to stop making all the other mistakes that stop you from becoming the woman that inspires a man to crave being around her. You now know how to keep his interest.
It is when a man wants more than anything to be around you long term, that you are officially one of the women with the SECRET! You will officially be one of the dream women.
IMPORTANT ANNOUNCEMENT
For those of you who order any of the resources you find on my blog between now and May 31st, I will be offering free one on one advice, as in on the PHONE. Yes I actually want to talk to you ladies and hear from you :)!
Ciao bellas
Alyssa K
Wednesday, May 5, 2010
How To Regain a Man's Interest - Lesson From a Feather!
Hello Ladies,
Today was cold and rainy and not one of those days when I want to be out and about. I love it when it rains though! Any excuse to curl up in bed. Today was way too cold for a day in May though but it was raining so I am not complaining.
In yesterday's REVIEW, we mentioned some of the mistakes that you may be making right now or have made in the past that have caused the men in your life to want to jump ship...
-Calling too often and essentially chasing him and thus chasing him AWAY
-Hinting about commitment, marriage and children too soon as in bringing it up before him
-Asking where the relationship is going
-Not giving him enough space and allowing him to enjoy his freedom
-Focusing on him and smothering him
-Giving him too much attention
Okay so just imagine that with any or all of these actions above, you are vigorously and desperately trying to catch that feather (the man in your life whose interest seems to be cooling off) that is falling from the sky.
The more you struggle to clutch at and catch and hang onto this feather, the more you push the feather away and the more frustrated you become and the more mistakes you end up making.
But ladies, what happens if you just relax, chill out, kick back and open up your hand? The feather will land in your hand effortlessly!
So what you want to do is to find ways of relaxing and opening your hand and letting the man you want come to you. That is how you regain his interest and KEEP his interest.
The way you do this is by focusing on YOU and YOUR feelings, not on the man.
•You open yourself up to yourself,
•You are feeling good
•The better you feel the more RELAXED you become
•The more RELAXED you become, the more POSITIVE VIBES you emit
•The more POSITIVE the VIBES, the more CONFIDENT you feel
•The more CONFIDENT you feel, the LESS ENERGY you expend
•The LESS ENERGY you expend, the MORE the man in your life will drift TOWARDS YOU since you are not pushing him away by your efforts to hang onto HIM.
He is drifting towards you because you have now become more ATTRACTIVE to him and are using your feminine energy to draw him in.
This is what you want ladies, even if you have made all the mistakes above, you can correct them and draw him back in.
Click here to get your spiraled bound copy of Man Mistake Eraser and to find out how to correct the mistakes above and draw him back in. IMPORTANT, so that you find the link easily, it's near the top of the page. Don’t forget to download your 2 bonuses so you can start reading right away! How To Play Hard to Get and How to Write a Successful Online Profile.
Ladies, I am really happy to hear of the upturns in your relationships. I really enjoy your emails. I smile when I read of your results! I told you!!!!!!
Keep reading and practising!
Ciao bellas
Alyssa K
Today was cold and rainy and not one of those days when I want to be out and about. I love it when it rains though! Any excuse to curl up in bed. Today was way too cold for a day in May though but it was raining so I am not complaining.
In yesterday's REVIEW, we mentioned some of the mistakes that you may be making right now or have made in the past that have caused the men in your life to want to jump ship...
-Calling too often and essentially chasing him and thus chasing him AWAY
-Hinting about commitment, marriage and children too soon as in bringing it up before him
-Asking where the relationship is going
-Not giving him enough space and allowing him to enjoy his freedom
-Focusing on him and smothering him
-Giving him too much attention
Okay so just imagine that with any or all of these actions above, you are vigorously and desperately trying to catch that feather (the man in your life whose interest seems to be cooling off) that is falling from the sky.
The more you struggle to clutch at and catch and hang onto this feather, the more you push the feather away and the more frustrated you become and the more mistakes you end up making.
But ladies, what happens if you just relax, chill out, kick back and open up your hand? The feather will land in your hand effortlessly!
So what you want to do is to find ways of relaxing and opening your hand and letting the man you want come to you. That is how you regain his interest and KEEP his interest.
The way you do this is by focusing on YOU and YOUR feelings, not on the man.
•You open yourself up to yourself,
•You are feeling good
•The better you feel the more RELAXED you become
•The more RELAXED you become, the more POSITIVE VIBES you emit
•The more POSITIVE the VIBES, the more CONFIDENT you feel
•The more CONFIDENT you feel, the LESS ENERGY you expend
•The LESS ENERGY you expend, the MORE the man in your life will drift TOWARDS YOU since you are not pushing him away by your efforts to hang onto HIM.
He is drifting towards you because you have now become more ATTRACTIVE to him and are using your feminine energy to draw him in.
This is what you want ladies, even if you have made all the mistakes above, you can correct them and draw him back in.
Click here to get your spiraled bound copy of Man Mistake Eraser and to find out how to correct the mistakes above and draw him back in. IMPORTANT, so that you find the link easily, it's near the top of the page. Don’t forget to download your 2 bonuses so you can start reading right away! How To Play Hard to Get and How to Write a Successful Online Profile.
Ladies, I am really happy to hear of the upturns in your relationships. I really enjoy your emails. I smile when I read of your results! I told you!!!!!!
Keep reading and practising!
Ciao bellas
Alyssa K
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