Hey,
Do you ever feel like you are doing too much for the man you are seeing but he is doing absolutely nothing?
Do you feel like you don't even know how he feels about you? How much does he even like being around you?
You are the one calling and emailing, planning dates, trying to figure out how to make him feel better, giving him what he likes, making him feel like a VIP.
But yet, doesn't it seem like you are getting the short end of the stick where he is concerned? Like he doesn't really care either way?
You are the one thinking of him ALL the time but you don't get the impression that he is thinking of you at all.
I remember when I used to strategically plan my next move with guys. I kid you not. That used to really get me teed off.
What you really want is for the guy in your life to think about you and put in some effort, right?
You want him to think of you and wonder about what you are doing, when he'll hear from you again and how YOU feel about HIM.
When he starts thinking of you like this, he HAS to want more from you. He has no control over it anymore. That's what you really want right?
You want him to be like "oh wait, I haven't talked to her in a while", or "I haven't seen her in a while" but it might just have been a day or two. Then he picks up the phone to call you and he asks YOU what you are doing this weekend.
Why?
Because HE wants to see YOU. And the best part about it is, you didn't have to lift a finger. This is how you inspire him to want to be around you. You don't want to be the one wondering if or when you'll hear from him next or if he wants to see you or not.
You don't want to be wondering why he hasn't called you anymore. Those days are over! It's time for a change. You can only do that though when you make him a little bit uncomfortable.
The key is to stay one step behind him but two steps ahead at all times.
All you have to do to keep him wanting more of you is to never come on stronger than he does. So for example if he says "I think we should see each other more often", you say "well, hold on, we'll see how it goes. I don't know if I want to see you more often". Of course, you smile when you say this.
This will drive him crazy because he has no clue what you mean. But now, you have him exactly where you want him.
But again, you can only do this if your perspective has changed. It's not about acting, pretending or playing games. Remember that men and people in general I might add pick up on the VIBE you give off and that vibe, aura, energy, whatever you want to call it, is all that matters.
The reason you can stay one step behind him and not come on strong is because you understand that he is NOT the be all and end all of your life and he does not need to be treated as such.
After all, you are just dating him. Even if you are his girlfriend...
So then, you can fully enjoy your freedom, enjoy your time with him, time away from him and remain OPEN to the idea of going even further with him IF YOU think that you two vibe well together.
See what I'm saying? It's all about changing your perspective and that is what many of the posts on this blog are about.
Alyssa K
Showing posts with label how to keep your man wanting more. Show all posts
Showing posts with label how to keep your man wanting more. Show all posts
Friday, June 25, 2010
Friday, June 18, 2010
How to keep your man wanting more - Intellectual attraction anyone?
Hey Ladies,
I like this topic of how to keep your man wanting more. There are so many ways to keep yourself intriguing, alluring and mysterious to the man in your life.
That way you keep him wanting more and hungry for your attention and your interest and you have lots of fun in the process!
It's not enough to be physically attractive. We know that already!
There are plenty of gorgeous women but you will have realized that these women are not necessarily the women who are able to keep their guys interested and fired up all the time.
The problem these women have is that they are unable to able to create the kind of attraction in a man that makes him crave their attention and crave their company.
So how do you do that?
To keep your man wanting more of you, you have to become more interesting to put it simply. You have to be much more interesting to be around.
You have to become the woman who would stimulate your man's mind in a way that it has never been stimulated before.
To do this you have to find a topic (or a few topics) that is interesting to both of you - something that would allow you both to connect on a deeper level.
When he thinks of you, he must think "hmmm, I wonder what she would think about xyz"; " I want to know more about her" or "I wonder what her take on this would be."
Just think about the following to help you through this:
• What are you most passionate about?
• What are his interests? What is he passionate about?
• What can connect you two at a deeper level?
• What do you two talk about when you are together?
• Can you talk and laugh for hours about subjects that you are both passionate about?
Start with these questions to get your mind going and see what you come up with.
When you can stimulate your man's mind and stir up feelings deep within him that he did not even know he had is when you will have no problems keeping him inspired to be with you and only you!
And then, voila...
You are suddenly a whole lot closer to becoming the woman he just has to be around and talk to...
Then you have him right where YOU want him...
I like this topic of how to keep your man wanting more. There are so many ways to keep yourself intriguing, alluring and mysterious to the man in your life.
That way you keep him wanting more and hungry for your attention and your interest and you have lots of fun in the process!
It's not enough to be physically attractive. We know that already!
There are plenty of gorgeous women but you will have realized that these women are not necessarily the women who are able to keep their guys interested and fired up all the time.
The problem these women have is that they are unable to able to create the kind of attraction in a man that makes him crave their attention and crave their company.
So how do you do that?
To keep your man wanting more of you, you have to become more interesting to put it simply. You have to be much more interesting to be around.
You have to become the woman who would stimulate your man's mind in a way that it has never been stimulated before.
To do this you have to find a topic (or a few topics) that is interesting to both of you - something that would allow you both to connect on a deeper level.
When he thinks of you, he must think "hmmm, I wonder what she would think about xyz"; " I want to know more about her" or "I wonder what her take on this would be."
Just think about the following to help you through this:
• What are you most passionate about?
• What are his interests? What is he passionate about?
• What can connect you two at a deeper level?
• What do you two talk about when you are together?
• Can you talk and laugh for hours about subjects that you are both passionate about?
Start with these questions to get your mind going and see what you come up with.
When you can stimulate your man's mind and stir up feelings deep within him that he did not even know he had is when you will have no problems keeping him inspired to be with you and only you!
And then, voila...
You are suddenly a whole lot closer to becoming the woman he just has to be around and talk to...
Then you have him right where YOU want him...
Friday, June 11, 2010
How to keep your man wanting more - Building emotional attraction
Hey,
So we talked about building emotional attraction a few days ago.
But well you need some practical tips so here are a few. The reason that I like these and think that they work so well is that
1.They keep YOU in that positive, feel good, happy place because you worry a lot less about the outcome since you are so busy having fun
2.They give both you and the man in your life what you both want
3.You can enjoy an in the moment connection which does work out much better in the long run.
Again, the whole thing is fascinating but watching it at work in your life and in your interaction with the men in your life is even better. So here goes!
1. Play with him and have FUN. Make sure that you have lots of fun together. Always keep yourself and him smiling.
When YOU are smiling, he is smiling, everything is good and "la vie est belle" as they say. This tip may sound incredibly simplistic but it is really very powerful.
2. Give him as much space as you can. Enjoy the time you have when you are together. Have fun and live in the moment but do NOT crowd him.
Use this time away from him to replenish YOUR positive energy, come back refreshed and with a brand new aura that draws him in.
Pull back sometimes and allow him to miss you, to wonder about you and to come looking for you. Let him have fun with that sometimes. Enjoy the magic when he finds you.
3. Be interesting and unpredictable. Be provocative sometimes with what you say and do so that he never quite knows what you will say or do next.
That way he cannot help but think about you because you keep him guessing. You feel more confident, more daring like YOU are "the one". Like Neo...
4. Take things slowly to the point where he is not sure how into him you are. It does not matter how much fun you are having with him, do not try to rush ahead by forcing your feelings on him.
The key here is staying one step behind him and two steps ahead so that he is not quite sure what you want from him. This is how you keep him on his toes lol
Do you see how much fun you can have with this?
Building emotional attraction is as much fun for you as it is for him and in the end you both get what you want!
For more insight into this, you can download Man Mistake Eraser using this special link to get your bonus! Click on the link near the top of the page!
Ciao
Alyssa K
So we talked about building emotional attraction a few days ago.
But well you need some practical tips so here are a few. The reason that I like these and think that they work so well is that
1.They keep YOU in that positive, feel good, happy place because you worry a lot less about the outcome since you are so busy having fun
2.They give both you and the man in your life what you both want
3.You can enjoy an in the moment connection which does work out much better in the long run.
Again, the whole thing is fascinating but watching it at work in your life and in your interaction with the men in your life is even better. So here goes!
1. Play with him and have FUN. Make sure that you have lots of fun together. Always keep yourself and him smiling.
When YOU are smiling, he is smiling, everything is good and "la vie est belle" as they say. This tip may sound incredibly simplistic but it is really very powerful.
2. Give him as much space as you can. Enjoy the time you have when you are together. Have fun and live in the moment but do NOT crowd him.
Use this time away from him to replenish YOUR positive energy, come back refreshed and with a brand new aura that draws him in.
Pull back sometimes and allow him to miss you, to wonder about you and to come looking for you. Let him have fun with that sometimes. Enjoy the magic when he finds you.
3. Be interesting and unpredictable. Be provocative sometimes with what you say and do so that he never quite knows what you will say or do next.
That way he cannot help but think about you because you keep him guessing. You feel more confident, more daring like YOU are "the one". Like Neo...
4. Take things slowly to the point where he is not sure how into him you are. It does not matter how much fun you are having with him, do not try to rush ahead by forcing your feelings on him.
The key here is staying one step behind him and two steps ahead so that he is not quite sure what you want from him. This is how you keep him on his toes lol
Do you see how much fun you can have with this?
Building emotional attraction is as much fun for you as it is for him and in the end you both get what you want!
For more insight into this, you can download Man Mistake Eraser using this special link to get your bonus! Click on the link near the top of the page!
Ciao
Alyssa K
Tuesday, May 25, 2010
How to keep your man wanting more- Build emotional attraction!
Hey Ladies,
Just a short word today about building emotional attraction!
Do NOT underestimate the power of emotional attraction! lol
When you meet a man and you two start to develop an interest in one another, it is because you are attracted to one another.
Attraction is what makes the whole thing work. Without attraction, there can be nothing.
How attracted a man is to you is what will make him stay around for the long haul and make him want to commit to you.
But what type of attraction are we really talking about here?
Of course there is physical attraction but physical attraction can only get you so far.
That is why we often hear stories from some of our friends who are really attractive but can never seem to be able to inspire a man to want to be around them for a long time.
They go out with a guy for a very short while before the chaos starts and the man then runs away for dear life.
So obviously then, inspiring a guy to want to be around you has absolutely nothing to do with mere physical attraction.
At the beginning it does help since men are visual creatures but to keep a man around you have to do a whole lot more than just look good.
The kind of attraction you need to build with your man is emotional attraction:
the type of attraction which is the beginning of true affection and which allows you to connect to a man in ways you never thought possible.
This attraction gives you a key to his heart.
This is the attraction that is the result of you making him feel very wanted and admired.
The kind of attraction that simply makes him feel good when talking to you, about you or being in your presence.
When he thinks about you his heart warms. When he sees you he is just blown away.
He longs to hear your voice again because you make him feel good each and every single time you talk to him.
When you are not with him, he wants to hear from you.
He thinks of you and a smile comes to his lips. You send him a text, he sees it’s from you and he smiles and opens it immediately.
This is the sort of attraction that will cause the man in your life to want to move mountains for you and want to be with you all the time.
Bear this in mind as your are flirting up a storm on your next date!
Ciao ladies
Alyssa K
Just a short word today about building emotional attraction!
Do NOT underestimate the power of emotional attraction! lol
When you meet a man and you two start to develop an interest in one another, it is because you are attracted to one another.
Attraction is what makes the whole thing work. Without attraction, there can be nothing.
How attracted a man is to you is what will make him stay around for the long haul and make him want to commit to you.
But what type of attraction are we really talking about here?
Of course there is physical attraction but physical attraction can only get you so far.
That is why we often hear stories from some of our friends who are really attractive but can never seem to be able to inspire a man to want to be around them for a long time.
They go out with a guy for a very short while before the chaos starts and the man then runs away for dear life.
So obviously then, inspiring a guy to want to be around you has absolutely nothing to do with mere physical attraction.
At the beginning it does help since men are visual creatures but to keep a man around you have to do a whole lot more than just look good.
The kind of attraction you need to build with your man is emotional attraction:
the type of attraction which is the beginning of true affection and which allows you to connect to a man in ways you never thought possible.
This attraction gives you a key to his heart.
This is the attraction that is the result of you making him feel very wanted and admired.
The kind of attraction that simply makes him feel good when talking to you, about you or being in your presence.
When he thinks about you his heart warms. When he sees you he is just blown away.
He longs to hear your voice again because you make him feel good each and every single time you talk to him.
When you are not with him, he wants to hear from you.
He thinks of you and a smile comes to his lips. You send him a text, he sees it’s from you and he smiles and opens it immediately.
This is the sort of attraction that will cause the man in your life to want to move mountains for you and want to be with you all the time.
Bear this in mind as your are flirting up a storm on your next date!
Ciao ladies
Alyssa K
Wednesday, April 28, 2010
How To Keep Your Man? Keep him Wanting More!
Hello ladies,
Thank you for the emails! I enjoyed reading them! I try to respond as soon as I can. I always like to hear from my readers.
I will be starting a weekly email programme soon so keep the emails coming. That way I have your addresses on file for the email list!
Okay so today we’ll be talking about how to keep your man wanting more…of you. When you keep your man wanting more of YOU, you keep your man!
We have mentioned it a lot here in the blog, men LOVE a challenge. If you continue to create that challenge for him, you continue to increase what I like to call your attraction quotient.
To keep your man, you have to get him so completely attracted to you; so completely into you; completely in love with you , that it never enters his mind to leave you.
When you reach that point, you become the woman your man cannot live without. That is the point we as women all want to get to, right?
So how do we get him to crave more of you? How do you keep him?
1. Be fun to be around. Enjoy the moment as is and have fun with him. Be the kind of woman who your guy thinks is cool to be around. Find cool ways to play with him.
Joke around with him, tease him, laugh, have a pillow fight, play a game of cards or Scrabble. There are tons of ways that you can play with your guy. Get creative and come up with some lol. It's better to find things that suit your unique personality anyway!
That way he gets to have fun and bond with you on the emotional level needed for him to fall in love with you.
2. Give the man his space! I cannot stress this enough. Did I put that in bold enough? lol
Men appear to love their freedom above all else so give him his freedom! You were not born with him, you are not joined at the hip.
As my mother says he had a life before you met him so allow him to live his life like he did before you came into it and you do the same!
By the way my mother and my father have been together for the last 35 years and he's still crazy about her. I just roll my eyes sometimes. Just thought I'd throw that in there. I think she knows what she's talking about, wouldn't you agree?
Guaranteed that when you give him his space, he wants to spend more time with you. Remember women fall in love in a man’s presence. Men fall in love in a woman’s absence!
3. Keep your vibe positive around him at all times. Do not overwhelm him with any negative feelings and by negative feelings I mean fear that he will leave you for another woman; fear that he is cheating on you or seeing someone else; panicking because you haven’t heard him in the last hour.
I do not know how they do it but men detect desperation from a mile away. If you wear that perfume, you will see the back of him soon enough. And that is NOT what you want...
4.Keep yourself busy. I know that there are things that you love to do. You have dreams, goals and aspirations. Get to them! Focus on them. Nothing turns a man on more than a woman who can get up and go and get ahead in life and is not overly focused or too bothered about him.
Right so with these four tips, I think you are well on your way to keeping your guy. If you want more information and more advice on how to do this, have a look at this method !
As always, if you have any questions or concerns about your relationship you can always shoot me an email at askalyssak@gmail.com like some of you have been doing or comment below the post!
Ciao bellas,
Alyssa K
Thank you for the emails! I enjoyed reading them! I try to respond as soon as I can. I always like to hear from my readers.
I will be starting a weekly email programme soon so keep the emails coming. That way I have your addresses on file for the email list!
Okay so today we’ll be talking about how to keep your man wanting more…of you. When you keep your man wanting more of YOU, you keep your man!
We have mentioned it a lot here in the blog, men LOVE a challenge. If you continue to create that challenge for him, you continue to increase what I like to call your attraction quotient.
To keep your man, you have to get him so completely attracted to you; so completely into you; completely in love with you , that it never enters his mind to leave you.
When you reach that point, you become the woman your man cannot live without. That is the point we as women all want to get to, right?
So how do we get him to crave more of you? How do you keep him?
1. Be fun to be around. Enjoy the moment as is and have fun with him. Be the kind of woman who your guy thinks is cool to be around. Find cool ways to play with him.
Joke around with him, tease him, laugh, have a pillow fight, play a game of cards or Scrabble. There are tons of ways that you can play with your guy. Get creative and come up with some lol. It's better to find things that suit your unique personality anyway!
That way he gets to have fun and bond with you on the emotional level needed for him to fall in love with you.
2. Give the man his space! I cannot stress this enough. Did I put that in bold enough? lol
Men appear to love their freedom above all else so give him his freedom! You were not born with him, you are not joined at the hip.
As my mother says he had a life before you met him so allow him to live his life like he did before you came into it and you do the same!
By the way my mother and my father have been together for the last 35 years and he's still crazy about her. I just roll my eyes sometimes. Just thought I'd throw that in there. I think she knows what she's talking about, wouldn't you agree?
Guaranteed that when you give him his space, he wants to spend more time with you. Remember women fall in love in a man’s presence. Men fall in love in a woman’s absence!
3. Keep your vibe positive around him at all times. Do not overwhelm him with any negative feelings and by negative feelings I mean fear that he will leave you for another woman; fear that he is cheating on you or seeing someone else; panicking because you haven’t heard him in the last hour.
I do not know how they do it but men detect desperation from a mile away. If you wear that perfume, you will see the back of him soon enough. And that is NOT what you want...
4.Keep yourself busy. I know that there are things that you love to do. You have dreams, goals and aspirations. Get to them! Focus on them. Nothing turns a man on more than a woman who can get up and go and get ahead in life and is not overly focused or too bothered about him.
Right so with these four tips, I think you are well on your way to keeping your guy. If you want more information and more advice on how to do this, have a look at this method !
As always, if you have any questions or concerns about your relationship you can always shoot me an email at askalyssak@gmail.com like some of you have been doing or comment below the post!
Ciao bellas,
Alyssa K
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