Monday, September 20, 2010

When he says he needs space - That's fine, you need your space too!

Hey ladies,

Still on the needing space issue.

Often, you will realize that guys won’t say anything about needing space until they have been pulling back for a while, acting distant, not calling or whatever else they do to make you want to pull your hair out trying to figure out what’s wrong.

Freaking annoying you will agree...

It’s only when you realize that they are acting distant for a days on a stretch that you realize something is up and then, you ask “uhmm, is there something wrong?”

They deny that anything is wrong and then after you prod a bit more, it usually comes out “I just need some space”.

This is after you’ve suffered through the distant behavior and made yourself sick thinking you are losing them.

Sounds familiar? It makes you want to strangle them.

The key is of course NOT getting to this point.

But what if you have reached this point with a man? What do you do now?

I’ll tell you what you do not do. You do NOT open your eyes as wide as saucers and start to have a quivering bottom lip.

You do NOT ask him what he means or ask him if it means you are breaking up and then throwing a fit if he says yes, begging him to stay.

You audibly (this is important) breathe a huge sigh of relief and tell him that you have been feeling the same way and it’s good that HE brought it up. You need some space too…

You need a freaking break too.

See now if he thought that you needed him around you that badly, he was sadly mistaken.

LOL, that’s how you start correcting that mistake.

But now, understand that if he said that, your attraction quotient has fallen somewhat. Now you have to ramp it back up and become insanely attractive to him again.

That is where this gem that was clearly a hit this summer comes in!

It is not just enough to tell him that you need your space.

You have to SHOW him. Therein lies the challenge!

But ladies, when you have met and overcome that challenge, it’s a whole new world for you and the men in your life!

Just remember, you need your space too…

Works wonders I tell ya!

Love

Alyssa K

Friday, September 17, 2010

What does "I need space" mean?

Have you ever found yourself in a relationship, having what you think is the time of your life, everything is all rosy,

all of a sudden your boyfriend says “I just need some space,” or “maybe we just need some space”?

What the hell does that mean?

I know some of you would start to freak out and think that this is the end of the relationship. This is it, you are breaking up, end of the road, how could he do this to you... and on and on with the negative thoughts.

But wait, not so fast…

What if that is all it means? Maybe you do need space away from each other because:

Think about it honestly for a minute...

You have been spending way too much time together and one (or both of you) is beginning to feel smothered and you need some time to breathe

The spark you had at the beginning is fizzling out and the attraction he had for you is waning

The relationship is going too fast and he wants to slow it down

You both need some alone time to collect your thoughts, handle personal business, reflect on yourself, the relationship, to regroup, etc…

It is possible to have too much of a good thing and too much of a good thing can ruin it.

Ever heard the term familiarity breeds contempt?

Well in the case of relationships, it breeds contempt, boredom, loss of attraction and a possible break-up...

The objective in any relationship is to keep the spark alive and preserve some of the mystery.

Without the spark, the chemistry, the attraction whatever you want to call it the relationship is doomed.

The only way you can do that is to spend some time away from each other to regroup and rekindle the spark.

How do you do that?

Whenever you hear “I need some space” from a man, well you heard him, give him his space!

But there is a way to do it so that he comes looking for you because you have yet again become so incredibly attractive to him all of a sudden.

You no longer make mistakes, you are now on point and have him exactly where you want him.

He said he wanted his space but suddenly he can't get enough of you! He's hooked...

And another one bites the dust! Hahaha!

Later ladies

Alyssa K

Thursday, September 16, 2010

Statistics - Don't be a nickle looking for a dime...

Hey,

So I came across this song the other day and I thought hmmm...interesting...food for thought.

I won't say anymore for now...but you know that I can pick this to pieces...you already know me, right? lol

Statistics - Lyfe Jennings

25% of all men are unstable

25% of all men can't be faithful

30% of them don't mean what they say

and 10% of the remaining 20 are gay

That leaves you with 10% chance of ever finding your man

That means you better pay attention to these word that I say

I'm gonna teach how to expose the 90%

And show you what to do to get the other 10

(chorus)
RULE #1

Don't be a booty call
If he don't respect you girl he gone forget you girl
AND 2

If he's in a relationship

And he would cheat on her that means he would cheat on you

RULE 3

Tell him that you're celibate

and if he want some of your goodies he gone have to work for it
RULE 4

Be the person you wanna find

Don't be a nickle out here lookin' for a dime

STATISTICS

(verse 2)
15% of all men got a complex

15% of all men don't practice safe sex

20% of them are from homes without a father

so there's a 50/50 chance that you'll marry a coward

something to think about when you're taking a shower

something to swallow when you drink your bottled water

I'm gonna teach how to expose the 90%

And show you what to do to get the other 10

(chorus)

(bridge)

Be patient
He's waitin'
you don't gotta settle for less
leave all that stress alone

get you a backbone

stop being sorry for yourself
Chances make champions

It's gonna take patience
Time is still wastin'

Listen to the song and watch the video over in the Videos/Podcasts section :)

Later Ladies

Alyssa K

P.S I would be remiss if I didn't let you in on the fun some of my readers are having. Click here and order your hard copy. Make the wrongs right and pre-empt any more mistakes! Be the one that gets him all hot and bothered and voila..he's hooked on you!

Absolutely amazing! I love it!

Summer 2010 is almost over! Which guy is hooked on you?

Hi Ladies,

How did it go? How was summer 2010?

As far as I am concerned it is pretty much over but I hope that you had lots of fun being the best you that you could be!

I know I had fun! I also took some time out to answer emails because they continued to come in and I like to give feedback to you as soon as possible!

I picked up quite a few tidbits to share with you over the summer and I will do that over the course of the next few weeks!

I am now back in full force and will not be mincing words in the second half of this year.

You know what to do so just continue doing it!

I am well aware of the fun that some of you have been having this summer with this one.

Works wonders doesn't it? Yes, it erases mistakes but more than that...

You read it, have some aha moments, use the techniques, start feeling really good about yourself, empowered enough to make some bold, brazen steps to change YOU and your relationship and you get the men in your life to sit up and pay attention!

Win, Win!

What else could you ask for?

So who did you manage to work your charms on? Which guy did you get hooked on you?

No worries, if you haven't achieved it just yet though. Only a matter of time!

Alyssa K